What we do to entertain our Autistic children

I saw someone ask today is it rude to bring iPad to church to occupy an autistic child.

No. No it’s not rude. We’ve over the years been through many stages. My Aspie is now 16 1/2 years old. And no it doesn’t go away, or get easier. The older they get the larger the obvious split off their peers becomes.
Imagine it this way. Look at a tree, their peers are the trunk. As these kids age they go off on branches. Still part of the tree just on a different journey than their peers.

As my child has grown and matured the divide has become larger. Boys his age are dating, going to dances, working, driving a car. My son is working, and concentrating on school and Boy Scouts and could careless about getting his driving license..

Boys his age understand proper dating edicate. My son does not. In less than a week he asked out 4 girls. All said no.

When my son was young we brought his leap pad everywhere. No leap pad= major melt down. Then it was the gameboy, iPod, now its his cell phone, iPod, and lanyard or paper to make origami’s or to draw.

It doesn’t go away, it changes and matures with them. I’ve learned to ignore the stares and snarls from outsiders. Until…

Last year at our previous church, it was during the 11 am service. A service that lasts 1 1/2 hours that my son was quietly tearing up his Church bulletin to make origami’s as I forgot his paper. The Usher walked up to him sitting in the pew 2 family members away from me and says to my son “Do you not know you’re at Church?! You are disrespectful! QUIT TEARING THE BULLITIN” At which point my son gets up and walks to bathroom. He returns a bit later obviously shaken by the man.

Well.. When I was my turn for communion and that Usher came to our pew I grabbed the jerk by the hand and let him know ( You are in a Church! Your job is not to judge people! That child you just judged is AUTISTIC, that’s what he does to be able to bear sitting in a noisy, people, loud music,  filled Church! I also let him know he was to NEVER again speak to my child. Speak to me. It was 6 weeks after this even we left that Church. And I’ve never looked back. God Guided us to where we belong.

We have found a Church that accepts my child/children for they are. The Pastor likes my sons origami’s lol and all people in Church know my kids well and love them for who they are and the differences that they have. They also ask me about how the 2 are doing in school, Ieps, Boy Scouts. A completely loving Christian environment.

Moral of story, Never ever let anyone push you around, or make you feel odd about what you as a special needs parent MUST do to make your child comfortable and be able to succeed!

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Rededication ceremony..

Today is the rededication ceremony for the preschool my son just completed his Eagle Scout Project at.

The mayor, city counsel members, Church elders are to be in attendance. Another big day for my son.

And my son will be presenting the preschool the remainder of the monies he fundraised that were left over after his project was complete . A good sized check. The preschool isn’t aware of that part yet 🙂

There is to be a ribbon cutting, icecream, refreshments. And a thank you to my son.

Its going to be another great day!

His Thank you from the children and staff at the pre school 🙂

Today is the day before tomorrow..

Today is the day before tomorrow which is the day my sons Eagle Scout Project begins!!

I’m so excited! And nervous.  We’ve been to Home Depot 4 times so far today and they don’t close for another 2 1/2  hours.  So there is still time to go back!

My son is nervous about having enough Boy Scouts to do the work. His job is to lead and supervise the project. Not do the manual work.

So far today we’ve had one dad and 2 boys step down from the work schedule. I’m hoping we don’t lose anymore.

Its been a long road to get my aspie son to this point. I’m so proud of him. What a huge thing this will be when its complete.
Project is set for tomorrow and Saturday. If it goes off as planned and gets completed I’m planning a celebration dinner for my son Saturday night.

This project has been being planned and worked on since November of 2011. 9 months! Im so excited to see his design plans at work and the completed product.
He is building 2 covers for our Churchs preschool sand boxes. To keep the sand clean. And animal droppings out.

One sand box is concrete and in good condition. The other my son is rebuilding. Its made of wood and has a wood seat. All the wood is termite damaged and rotten.

Well anyway. I will update as the project goes.

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Wow its been a while!

Where on earth does the time go? Thought I had posted recently.. NOPE!

Been a very busy house the last few weeks. Have a garage sale coming up and an Eagle Scout Project! Now the garage sale is a fundraiser for my soon to be Eagle Scout to make money at for his project.

He is building 2 sand box covers and rebuilding a sand box at a local preschool. These are not tiny sand boxes. Its quite a large project.

I’m excited and nervous for him. Excited the day is almost here we have planned for, for a year. And nervous that it all turns out ok. That boys show up to work. See thats the thing. My son The Eagle Scout project maker isnt allowed to work. He is to deligate the work out. Show his leadership skills.

Be successful and complete his project. To do that he must have  helpers.

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