I saw someone ask today is it rude to bring iPad to church to occupy an autistic child.
No. No it’s not rude. We’ve over the years been through many stages. My Aspie is now 16 1/2 years old. And no it doesn’t go away, or get easier. The older they get the larger the obvious split off their peers becomes.
Imagine it this way. Look at a tree, their peers are the trunk. As these kids age they go off on branches. Still part of the tree just on a different journey than their peers.
As my child has grown and matured the divide has become larger. Boys his age are dating, going to dances, working, driving a car. My son is working, and concentrating on school and Boy Scouts and could careless about getting his driving license..
Boys his age understand proper dating edicate. My son does not. In less than a week he asked out 4 girls. All said no.
When my son was young we brought his leap pad everywhere. No leap pad= major melt down. Then it was the gameboy, iPod, now its his cell phone, iPod, and lanyard or paper to make origami’s or to draw.
It doesn’t go away, it changes and matures with them. I’ve learned to ignore the stares and snarls from outsiders. Until…
Last year at our previous church, it was during the 11 am service. A service that lasts 1 1/2 hours that my son was quietly tearing up his Church bulletin to make origami’s as I forgot his paper. The Usher walked up to him sitting in the pew 2 family members away from me and says to my son “Do you not know you’re at Church?! You are disrespectful! QUIT TEARING THE BULLITIN” At which point my son gets up and walks to bathroom. He returns a bit later obviously shaken by the man.
Well.. When I was my turn for communion and that Usher came to our pew I grabbed the jerk by the hand and let him know ( You are in a Church! Your job is not to judge people! That child you just judged is AUTISTIC, that’s what he does to be able to bear sitting in a noisy, people, loud music, filled Church! I also let him know he was to NEVER again speak to my child. Speak to me. It was 6 weeks after this even we left that Church. And I’ve never looked back. God Guided us to where we belong.
We have found a Church that accepts my child/children for they are. The Pastor likes my sons origami’s lol and all people in Church know my kids well and love them for who they are and the differences that they have. They also ask me about how the 2 are doing in school, Ieps, Boy Scouts. A completely loving Christian environment.
Moral of story, Never ever let anyone push you around, or make you feel odd about what you as a special needs parent MUST do to make your child comfortable and be able to succeed!
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